Everyone has their own story when it comes to their sexuality. I feel I was born gay. I had access to good morals and principles as a child, but struggled with the religious side of things. I was made to feel like I was doing something wrong.
My family made the process of coming out easy for me, starting with my mom, Beth Weirick. When I was in college, she drove to Madison to pick me up and bring me home to Milwaukee. I remember looking at her and telling her that I had something important to share.
“Is this where you tell me that you’re gay?” she asked.
It felt easy. That was it.
I give my mom a lot of credit for making me feel comfortable with who I am. I think back to my freshman or sophomore year in high school when most parents are having informative sex talks with their kids, my mom didn’t use any pronouns — he or she — which was really impactful at the time because it could have been uncomfortable, but it wasn’t. She was really thoughtful about that and that’s something I take a lot of pride in with her.
Coming out to my dad, Vince Nicols, was a similar experience. I was a freshman with the Badgers and he had come to watch me play a game at North Carolina State. I remember walking up in the stands after the game — I’m not sure why I chose that moment — and I remember hugging him as I was crying.
“What’s the matter?” he asked me, concerned that my tears were basketball related.
“I’m gay,” I told him.
He seemed upset, but not because of what I said, but because I admitted I was scared to tell him.
It was a huge relief.