After reaching out to people closest to Howard and his family, I made plans to travel to Michigan to see him and Jerell in the hospital. It was so painful and emotional. I stayed a few days before coming home. Before I left, Howard told me he’d be OK and he’d see me when he got back.
Not long after the accident, Howard and I were sitting and talking with Matt Metzger, our friend and the senior pastor from Blackhawk Church. At one point, Howard asked a difficult, unanswerable question: Why does God allow bad things to happen to good people? I didn’t have an answer. All I could do was listen… to be there for him.
Father Matt picked up his phone and began to read from the Book of Job. The passage was about a righteous man, Job, who faithfully endured difficulties in his life even though they seemed unfair. At one point, God asked Satan for his opinion on Job’s piety and Satan accused Job of being pious only because God had blessed Job with material wealth. God gave Satan permission to take Job’s wealth and kill his children, but Job praised God nonetheless.
Howard had lost two wonderful, loving people from his life. He and his son were carrying huge burdens of grief. There was also the matter of the young lady, driving the wrong way, who was probably going through something herself when she was killed that night.