Ever since Dress was 12 or 13 years old, he was into bike racing, cross country skiing and swimming. All suffering sports. “I can’t out-coordinate you and I can’t outshoot you,’’ he said. “But I’ll out-suffer you because the only person stopping me from suffering is me. I always enjoyed the endurance sports, the Olympic sports, the suffering sports.’’
Curiously, it was another suffering sport that helped Dress deal with the ruthless pain of brain cancer. A member of the UW wrestling team passed along a shirt that said, “Win Every Day.’’
“You know it’s going to be a suffer-fest ahead of time,’’ Dress said, “and you know you can survive it, so you go and do it.
“What (cancer) forces you to do is live eight weeks at a time. Jam all the fun, all the positive energy, make the world a better place as much as I can these next eight weeks. Then you have a scan. Then you start another eight weeks.’’
Dress claimed he had the easy job.
“My brain’s going to stop working sometime in the next couple years,’’ he said, “and other people will have to forge ahead.’’
Of course, Dress had a bucket list.
He didn’t get a chance to see the Tour de France in person nor did he pitch his tent and sleep on one of the 58 14,000-foot summits in Colorado or take his place on an America’s Cup sailboat, but we went to the Caribbean on a family vacation and that was unforgettable. His bucket list evolved until there was really just one item – time with family and friends. That, he did.
Dress was asked what message he wanted to leave the world.
“Take the time you’ve got – you don’t know how much time that is – do everything you can to leave the world a better place,’’ he said. “If you have to leave tomorrow or if you have to leave in 40 years, make sure that you’re doing everything you can to leave the world a better place in the time that you’ve got.’’
Dress left us too soon.
“No regrets at all,’’ he said. “I had a lot of fun. Did a lot of cool stuff. Taught a lot of people valuable things.’’